Last week, I wrote about going where your dreams and goals take you. This week, I’m also focusing on movement, but for a different reason.
 
Just yesterday, my parents and I had dinner at Whataburger. The manager came by the check on us, make sure we were happy with our meal, etc., and she noticed Dad’s baseball cap — Dallas Cowboys.
So a conversation about football began, and she mentioned being an Oregon Ducks fan. I perked up and mentioned that, “Oh my husband went to U of O!” She responded that she did, too, and immediately the conversation turned to Oregon.
Through the course of the conversation, she revealed that she was in Texas because she had to separate herself and her daughter from a negative situation in Oregon. She said she’s much happier in Texas, and she’s glad she made the move. I told her she had to do what she had to do, and I wished her the best of luck.
We all have to deal with toxic people at one time or another. Sometimes its a friendship gone wrong. Sometimes its family. Sometimes its a co-worker or a boss. Sometimes its just a guy you meet every day on the street to-and-from your favorite coffee shop. No matter who it is (or perhaps its just a situation or a place), you eventually HAVE to cut that toxic person out of your life. Or at the very least, you have to set boundaries. Especially when they are holding you back from being all you can be. They are keeping you from your dreams.
So sometimes, making it happen can mean leaving a negative just as much as it is going towards a positive.
Have you ever had a toxic relationship? Perhaps you have one now. How did you take control of it? Or what are you doing TO control it now? I’d love some feedback.
I had a friend back in college… she was going through a transitional time, but she was soooo depressed and she really, really, really was dragging me down back then. We’d been pretty close, but I was fighting my own depression battle. I never told her I needed space and couldn’t handle her problems in addition to my own, but I did withdraw from the friendship for awhile. Part of it was I didn’t need any more negativity in my life. Part of it was I was annoyed that I was doing something about my situation and she was doing nothing to help her own. We’re still friends today, but it’s at a distance. She seems happier and is married and etc. Hopefully she got a grip on all of it.