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“No tears,” he said. “No promises,” I replied.

My Wedding Day

There we stood in the back of church. My bridemaids were all filing up, arm-in-arm with my fiance’s groomsmen. I held hands with my dad… a hand that had helped me through so much in my life.

Things I don’t remember — learning to walk, learning to talk.

Things I remember vividly — high school, college, my first job, a broken heart.

Things that have no real description — lessons, emotions, failures, successes. And there we were, about to embark on the next chapter of my life.

“No tears,” he said, giving me a hug.

“No promises,” I said with a little laugh.

There are tears of joy. There are tears of sadness. There are simply tears that result from overwhelming love and this mixture of emotions that have no words.

THAT’S how I feel when I think about my dad. Overwhelming love, respect, thankfulness, and joy. There is no Hallmark card that can ever convey that. They come close, but never quite get there.

My family celebrated Father’s Day a couple weeks ago, when I was down in Texas. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want to still acknowledge my dad ON Father’s Day. I’m a Daddy’s girl… any chance to celebrate him, I take!

I went to church tonight, and at the end of mass they had all the fathers, grandfathers and great-grandfathers stand up. I have to confess, I got a tear in my eye.

A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society. – Rev. Billy Graham

Dad and my niece in 2004.

We rarely hear, “Hi Dad!” on TV. Rarely does a speech start with, “I want to thank my Dad.” They’re that silent strength in so many people’s lives. A thankless job, but one that is so priceless… one that deserves its own day to stop and go, “Thanks, Dad!”

My dad has lead by example. With strength. With kindness. With love. He instilled in me a strong value system. He showed me how to be independent and a leader. He taught me right from wrong.

He has always believed in me, telling me I could do whatever I set my mind to do. Always doing what he could do to pave the way for me to do anything. (He is still doing that to this day!)

He is one of my biggest fans and greatest assets in life. I don’t know that I say thank you enough. I don’t know that I tell him how important he is to me. But I do know that I wouldn’t be the woman I am today if I hadn’t had the incredible father that I have.

I get a huge smile any time my mom laughs at something I do or say and goes, “You are definitely your daddy’s daughter.” Or occasionally my husband will even go, “Oh you picked that up from your dad!” And I usually laaaaaaugh. Yup. Daddy’s Girl indeed.

Wish I could be with my dad on Father’s Day, but I am definitely there in my heart. And I know I’ll get talk to him on the phone for awhile at some point during the day.

If you can’t be with your dad, pick up the phone and call him. If he’s passed away, take a moment to reflect on him. Talk to him in your heart. Or if you have someone who was/is in your life as a father figure (because, lets be honest, not all fathers are Dad’s), take a moment to thank them for being there. Dad is such a thankless but important job. THANK YOU to all the Dad’s out there… hope you have a wonderful day!

More than just a parent…

I’m truly blessed to have an amazing relationship with BOTH my parents. Mom and Dad are Mom and Dad, but they are also friends… which is SO cool to be able say. When Tara made that post on Twitter this week, it made me smile. Reminded me of my own relationship with my Mom!

Unbeknown to me at that time, an evening out with Mom was already in the works.

Tonight, Mom and I had a girls night out. Dinner, a little shopping, and then more conversation over cups of coffee before heading back home. It was SO MUCH FUN! I wasn’t ready for it to end, but as the coffee ran out and the hour grew late, it was time to call it a night.

We’ve been so busy lately, that taking an evening to unwind and just be “the girls” was a total treat. I may be married, but I am still my mother’s daughter and always will be! I haven’t gone to a store just to look around in ages, and we both had fun having no rhyme or reason to what we were doing. We were just hanging out. A definite boost for us both!! I hope we do it again soon.

I’ve had great afternoons/evenings out with Dad as well, which is so cool to be able to say. How many daddies and daughters take time to just hang out? Especially as the years pass and time gets short and life gets hectic. I am SO thankful. Daddy’s girl here!

I wish such a relationship for everyone with their parents. A relationship that is both parent and friend. A relationship full of love, respect and good dose of humor. SO awesome. So very blessed.