Uncertainty

If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans.

You can make plans, but life is full of uncertainties. You can try to be in control, but in reality… you aren’t.

There is one thing that is a given about being married to a musician, and that is uncertainty in general. You never know when there will be a show added, making planning big things difficult. For example, this will more than likely be the first Easter my husband and I won’t spend together due to a show added on Good Friday. I felt it was certain we’d spend the day together, and instead we probably won’t. It is what is is. You also never know when a show will be canceled, making it impossible to know for sure how much money you’ll have coming in by the end of the month.

Spring is upon us, and as such the weather is growing volatile. I’m sitting here loading and reloading weather reports for tomorrow. What are the chances of tornadoes around Nashville? Will my house still be there in the evening? Will my truck be covered in hail dents? All the predictions in the world are good to have, but at the end of the day… we can’t know what is going to happen until it does.

You apply for a job. You work hard on a project. You give everything your all. However, you never really know how any of it will be received. Once again, uncertainty reigns.

What matters is how you handle the uncertainty. I don’t LIKE it, but its a fact of life. I like to prepare myself for every possibility, so I am as ready as I can be for whatever happens. Sometimes you CAN’T prepare. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball that you couldn’t have seen coming. And its in those moments you have to take it a minute at a time, and just do your best to handle it with strength and grace.

NaBloPoMo March 1st writing prompt: How do you feel about uncertainty? Is it exciting or scary? [here]

Turn lanes and yield signs

You know what I think is one of the biggest failures I’ve seen in a long time? The lack of good drivers ed programs in schools today.

I mean, I love Nashville and all, but its got some of the worst drivers. Ever. And I am starting to see the same issues I have with Nashville drivers everywhere else. And those issues come down to lack of basic driving rules.

Like, “What is a yield sign?” Yield does not mean merge! Yield means STOP unless it is completely clear, then you can roll on through.

When we lived in our old house, we had a helluva time getting on the Interstate, because the ramp onto the Interstate had a Yield sign for people coming onto the ramp from the opposite directions (Say I am coming at the Interstate from the West, people trying to merge onto the same ramp from the East were supposed to yield to those of us coming from the West before entering the ramp.) I witnessed and experienced SO MANY PEOPLE not Yield but instead almost side swipe or run the person with the right of way completely off the road. More than once, I would just lay on my horn at the offender as they looked at me like, “What???” I so badly wished I’d had a sign that said, “LEARN WHAT YIELD MEANS AND DO THAT!!!”

Just yesterday, my parents and I were traveling to a store, and hopped in the turn lane just at our left turn. Ahead of us was a car full of teenagers just cruising down the turn lane like it was another lane of traffic DIRECTLY AT US. The turn lane is for turning. Not for cruising. Did you know you’re not supposed to try to get up to speed in the turn lane either? I mean, think about it. You’re trying to get up to 55 mph to merge as someone else coming AT you is stopped waiting to make a left turn. Can you say head-on collision? Turn lanes are for turning, not for traveling.

What about a 4 way stop? Ever end up in line at one and no one has a clue who goes first? I have. Crazy annoying.

I don’t claim to be perfect in my knowledge of the rules of the road. I mean, for the longest time, I got confused on a 2 way stop sign. I actually had to dig out my old drivers ed book and look up how those work.

Ah. Driver’s Ed. I am REALLY glad I took it. I am REALLY glad it was offered. It scares me to know its generally not offered anymore, and we’re relying on parents, etc. to teach our youth how to drive. I used to enjoy going for a drive. Today, it just stresses me out. Today it feels more like a suicide attempt than a relaxing thing to do.

Probably just as well with the gas prices… but that’s a whole other topic. I have thought many times about taking a defensive driving course just for a rules refresher. I wouldn’t even be opposed to having to take a test every so often with a drivers license renewal just to make sure we are all on the same page. It would be a pain in the butt and take time, but if it meant staying alive while running errands? It would be worth it. Just my opinion!

The wife of a touring musician tells it like she sees it…