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Cheer up

I’ve mentioned in the past that I am a member of a site called Daily Challenge by MeYou Health. Today’s everyday health prompt is “List 3 ways you can cheer yourself up the next time you have a bad day.”  More from the prompt: Everyone has a bad day from time to time, the kind when nothing goes right. It’s how we react that can make all the difference.

Isn’t that the truth!? I’ve had a few of those lately…

So what are some positive ways to battle a bad day? Other than having a drink or two or ten (which all that does is give you a hangover the next day and yet ANOTHER bad day to deal with…).

key_heartWriting.  For me, writing has always been a go-to when I’m in a bad mood. Write it down. Get it out. Move on. I’ve stumbled upon spirals I vented in when I was little, and I find myself chuckling at the “tragedies” that upset me. But, hey, bad mood, get it out and feel better. Since I blog and writing is more focused today, I don’t turn to this as much as I used to… my private journal sits dormant a lot more than I like. But sometimes just knowing I CAN write about an issue helps, too.

 key_heart Talk it out. My husband, my mom, and my best girlfriends are my vents. If something is bothering me, its wonderful to know I can talk it out with any or all of these people. Sometimes I need feedback… tell me if I am wrong to feel the way I do. Help me see the other side. Sometimes, the last thing I want is feedback. Just listen. Just let me get it out. And suddenly, all is right with the world again.

key_heart Clean. Cleaning always helps make things better. Cleaning gets the negative OUT – literally and figuratively. Dust, vacuum, scrub, bleach, sweep… it gets the dirt the dirt and grime out of the house. It also gets the negative feelings out of my mind and heart. Cleaning makes me happy. It makes me feel good again.

key_heart Get away. Go for a drive. Go ride a bike. Go for a walk. Jump on the back of my husband’s motorcycle and zone out. Sometimes you have to physically remove yourself from the situation upsetting you to get perspective and to bring yourself back up. Its not running away… its resetting in a great way.

key_heart Music. Some times all I want is silence and music is exactly what I DON’T want. Other times, though, putting on a fast paced and happy song is all it takes to bring me back up. Get me dancing in my seat or dancing around the room. Puts a spring in my step and all is right in the world again.

So what about you? Anything that makes YOU happy when you’re having a bad day?

I still get sad…

With my husband as a musician, I’m “used to” saying good bye for long periods of time. (Hence, “Musician’s Widow” of course.) I only “like” it because it means income into the household. But good-byes are never what you’d call fun.

Right now, it was my turn to “go on the road for work” and I said good-bye to my husband for a few weeks.

Confession: I still get sad saying good-bye, even if I’m “used to it.”

I woke up in a funk this morning of good-bye. I kept telling myself to not ruin our last few hours by moping, but it was HARD. My logical side said it had to be, but my emotional side wanted to make him stay with me a few more days. (He drove me to Texas for work, and he was leaving to go back home to Nashville while I stayed behind.)  Cancel gigs. Ignore the winter weather warnings. Stay!

But, no, he had to go. So I hugged and kissed him and waved as he drove away.

We’ll both get in an old rhythm that we get into when we’re apart. Phone calls. Chat session on AIM. Etc. We’re good at this, and at the end of the day it’s not REALLY that big of a deal. It’s our life and “how we roll.” We will both be so busy during this time that the days will fly by for us. It’s all good.

I’m fine now. Miss him like crazy, of course, but I’m doing fine.  But… I do still get sad to say good-bye.