Five on Friday :: March 27, 2015

I’ve been feeling kind of overwhelmed the last 24 hours. So I went in search of a whole lot of positive message to share today.


1. Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.  — Willie Nelson

2. Positive anything is better than negative nothing. — Elbert Hubbard

3. Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. – Norman Vincent Peale

4. Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. – Thomas Edison

5. The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence. – Confucius

Umbrella@LowHave a happy, positive, weekend!


Am I an adult?

A few days ago, I had this weird realization hit me. I’m 34; I turn 35 in 8 months. (I know a lot of people just rolled their eyes at this… hang with me here.)

My 30s are going to be half over! Or maybe I should look at it that I have half my 30s left.


Either way, I’m not a kid any more. Not even close. But I also find myself wondering when I’m going to have that moment of, “I’m an adult now.”

I mean, I’m married. I’ve bought a house. I’m starting a business. I’ve done a whole bunch of totally grown-up things. I think I think like an adult. I hang out with adults…

Growing up, I was always the oldest person in my group of friends. After getting married and moving to Nashville, I am now generally the YOUNGEST person in a group. So you’d think I’d feel like an adult more than ever.

But there are plenty of things I still think I’m 18 about. Like I think I can eat anything and not gain a pound. Or if I do gain weight I can drop in two days still. I think I can still just break out in a dead run and do a 400 meter dash and only be kinda winded. I think I can fall asleep in the car and not have a neck ache afterwards.   I figure I still have YEARS before things like a yearly mammogram will apply to me. I don’t have an 8-5 job that I wear dress pants and button down shirts to every day. And I don’t have everything figured out, like I used to think adults did when I was a kid.

I guess I do, though, realize my age when I don’t think about it too hard.

When bartending, I regularly looked out at college-age and clearly-fresh-out-of-college 20-somethings with a weary eye knowing that I no longer had the amount of patience I had back then for their thought processes. I gain a lot of entertainment reading teens tweets and the fact that their life is bound to end because someone broke up with them. (I also spend more time than I’ll admit Googling what they say so I can understand.)

I find myself very thankful social media didn’t exist when I was 16.

I went out with my friends on Saturday night, and we ended up having long conversations about health. People we know with cancer was one long part of the conversation, and afterwards I commented how we used to talk about guys that in depth.

We spoke of loss. We talked jobs, traffic and keeping our homes. we talked about how much things cost. We talked babies, and dreams.

It’s natural. It’s where we are in life…


Perhaps I am over analytically thinking. In fact I know I am. And perhaps this is some weird midlife crisis in which I go through this weird denial that time is passing faster than I like to admit.

I love that I’ve been married over 8 years, though it doesn’t FEEL that long until I look back at all we’ve already been through together. Sometimes I think I should have myself together a lot more by now. Other times I know there are many, many years still to come and we’re always growing and learning.

It’s just going to keep getting better.

IMG_20150316_044443None of us ever have it all figured out. That’s just part of life. Just like getting older. We learn to adjust and figure it out as we go… and I suppose its with that realization that I know I AM an adult.


Five on Friday :: March 13, 2015

I got slightly riled up this week (again) when someone made a dig about Nashville killing country music. Why? Because there is still lots of great country music being made in Nashville today… its just not on the radio. So here I bring you five songs I think should be on radio RIGHT NOW.


1. Route 5 Box 109 – Joe Diffie  :: I fell in love with this song the first time I heard it on Joe’s bluegrass album released in 2010. I told everyone about this song. I hoped so much it would be released to country radio. SO WHAT if its bluegrass. Its a good song. No, its a GREAT song. Period. Close your eyes. Listen to the lyrics. And you absolutely can’t tell me you that you don’t go on a trip to a simpler time and place. Now that’s country, y’all.

2. More Afraid of Livin’ – David Adam Byrnes :: The fact that this song isn’t on the radio is a crime. A CRIME. The first time I heard this song just acoustically done on stage it stopped me in my tracks. It captured me and would NOT let me go. Those lyrics… just… If I said I’m not scared,  I’d be lying. I’m just more afraid of livin’ than dyin’. THAT’S powerful. And the way David delivers it like he’s living that feeling right now with his thick southern accent its just as country as it gets. And if you don’t just fall in love with this song and this guy’s voice… well… you might want to turn in your country card immediately.

3. Where Have You Been – Brad Anderson :: I can’t even begin to tell you why I love this song so much. Brad has a ton of great music, but somehow when he performs this song it just shuts me up and makes me pay attention. Maybe its the raw pain in Brad’s voice when he sings the song. Maybe its the fact its an amazing, amazing love song. I missed you so much, where have you been? This song just… the power of heartbreak, hope, love and forgiveness… Maybe we need more of that on the radio and less booty shaking one night stands, huh?

4. Mexico – Matt Willis :: Like Brad, Matt has a ton of songs that I absolutely love. But this one is the one I find myself hitting repeat on over and over and over again when I listen to his album. Often cranking it to 10 and getting lost in the lyrics. Matt sings it in such a way you find yourself in the moment with him. It takes a total different take on a break-up song that what usually hear. It’s not a party song. It’s not a revenge song.  It’s refreshing, and it needs to be on the radio. Right now.

5. Good Side of this Bar – Chuck Courtenay :: This song is personal. I’ll be honest, I can’t listen to it any more without tearing up. Because it was written about The Fiddle & Steel Guitar Bar. And I’m quickly finding I’m having a harder time with its closing than I expected I’d have. Three months since we closed those doors for the last time, and I’m missing that place more than ever. But this song needs to be on the radio. For one, its just a GREAT song. For two, I think people should know about the Fiddle. It’s legacy and 18 years of success should not be lost to a hotel and developers. It was a beloved bar of many, and it launched careers. That belongs on the radio.

6. Entertaining Angels – Mark Wills :: (Hey its MY blog and if I want to do more than five I can.) But this song goes very close to the previous song, because the first time I heard it, it reminded me of the Fiddle & Steel. But beyond that, its just a REALLY REALLY REALLY AMAZING SONG that has to be on this list. And the more I listen to it, the more it reminds me of my life in general. It tells a story. It has a message. You used to find this on country radio… it needs to come back to it.  There was no tall white steeple or big stain glassed cathedral, just ordinary people sharin’ life and tellin’ jokes, trying to find a little hope…

Speaker@LowHappy listening, y’all!


The wife of a touring musician tells it like she sees it…

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